ABOUT KIMBERLEY RECORD
Hello! I’m Kim. Body Love Coach, Holistic Nutritionist and “recovered perfectionist”.
I want to be very upfront with you: I’m on a mission. A mission to redefine beauty as we know it, and to help women break up with the scale, diets and the quest for “perfection” for good.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
This quote – probably my favourite of all time – serves as my daily reminder. It guides me in my work, in my relationships, and in being a role-model to my daughter.
But I also admit that this “greatest accomplishment”, to always be myself, has been my greatest challenge and greatest source of grief and struggle.
For many years, I’d bought into external standards of what beauty, success, and happiness “should” be.
And guess what? I never felt beautiful enough, successful enough, and definitely not happy enough. And then I wondered what the heck was wrong with me!
Have you ever felt this way too?
I imagine if you’re a woman, who’s exposed everyday to (unrealistic and harmful) standards of beauty, and body size, shape and weight, then it’s quite likely you have.
Deeply grateful for my long and difficult journey to full self-acceptance, self-care and self-empowerment (which I’ve come to define as the 3 key pillars of Body Love), I now get fired up to help other women to build a foundation of true body love – from the inside-out, and to achieve life’s greatest accomplishment.
Because it feels sooooo damn good!
And I believe that everyone deserves to – and can – feel this way. All it takes is having the right tools.
So, I’ve become a tool maker. I write, coach, create programs, and write some more, sharing my experiences, breakthroughs, nutrition and wellness knowledge, and proven methods for personal transformation (which includes mental, emotional, spiritual and physical transformation).
‘What could you possibly know about negative body image?’
This is a question I’ve heard more than once in the years since I began writing and coaching on the subject. Admittedly, it’s a fair question (a question that I delve into deeper in my book Finding Your Forever Body), so if you’re wondering this too, please allow me to share a bit of my story:
OK, yes, I did pretty well in the “genetic lottery” (thanks Mom and Dad). But, that didn’t stop me from hating my body for much of my life: my emotional relationship with food and my body image was a huge, distracting struggle for me from a very early age.
One might even say it’s a problem I was born with…
From the time I was just three years old, I was insecure about my body: I’d developed the belief from a very young age that my body should be different and “better” because I compared myself to other children – in particular, to my slightly older, yet much tinier stepsister.
Even though I was a healthy and active kid, I complained regularly – to my mom’s dismay – of having “fat thighs.” (That’s me on the right, with my “fat thighs.”)
This lead me to jump on the diet train quite early as well, thanks to the “help” of teen fashion magazines. I was 11 years old when I first experienced the discomfort of starving from calorie restriction, and feeling out of control with bingeing.
Add to that, I started modeling at 15 – which was a fun extracurricular pursuit, until I was rejected by a reputable agency at 17 for being too short and overweight (at 137lbs on a 5’8 ½” frame), and for having “imperfect” teeth. An event that shattered my self-esteem and my self-worth.
That was the end of my modeling pursuit, but it was the beginning of many years of body-weight obsession, calorie-counting and a relentless focus on my imperfections.
ALL areas of my life suffered, and it was only when I realized that my life was on hold because I’d subscribed to someone else’s standards that things began to turn around.
It didn’t happen overnight, but by taking the very first step towards discovering my own standards, I realized that:
There’s no such thing as the perfect body; and the only way to truly love our bodies is to first love WHO we are.
My body became a secondary focus to learning about who I was, what I was passionate about, and what kind of life I wanted to create for myself. However, each step closer I got to feeling my true self, my body did indeed change – as nutrition, fitness and good mental, emotional and spiritual health became foundational elements for helping me move forward.
Each step I took, especially in the beginning, required more energy, focus and strength than I even knew was possible, and I learned that I needed to support my body so that it could support me through them.
My body is my vehicle, not my identity
Today, I know that my body is nothing more than the physical vehicle that transports me through my life’s journey. I respect it for the role it plays in helping me express who I am, but it’s not who I am.
(As a bonus, I can also now enjoy food and the pleasure of eating, I haven’t touched a diet book in more than ten years, and I’ll confidently don a swimsuit any time of year, no matter what!)
Though this mindset requires on-going maintenance (I’m still human after all!), it’s been worth the effort to develop the right maintenance tools – especially now as a mom and role model to my 7-year-old daughter, Eve.
Amidst societal pressures, I want her to grow up with the tools that allow her to separate her size from her self-worth; to nourish her body because she loves it; to enjoy and appreciate nutritious food; and to be confident in WHO she is, no matter what opinion anyone may express about her looks.
And I don’t just want that for her – I want that for all women, of all ages.
From that desire, has come a vision for a new definition of beauty:
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I love helping my daughter – and my clients – build up their own “Body Love toolbox”. And I’d love to help you create, sharpen, and maximize your tools for falling in love with your body and your life, through my approach for Building Body Love – from the Inside-Out.
I look forward to connecting with you!
P.S. Some of my favourite tools in my own Body Love toolbox include: yoga, writing/journaling, beach walks, morning snuggles, gratitude, smoothies, running outdoors, hot/cold water therapy, inspirational books, dedicated “play” days, family movie-nights, and a firm belief in angels and miracles…and of course, there’s always room for more – which I love to share regularly on my blog, Facebook and Instagram.
P.P.S. If you’re like me, and want to help make a difference in the self-esteem, future and quality of life of young girls everywhere, I highly recommend checking out my favourite global campaign for this cause: Because I am a Girl